How to Avoid Rejection Blues — A Guest Post for Bookworms’ Avenue
The most important to remember about rejection is that you can try 100 times, and it only takes one ‘yes’ to achieve your goal—so rejection is inevitable. In the publishing industry, any kind of response is positive, even if it’s a rejection, because it means someone took the time to look over your work. The best thing you can do is use it as a tool to improve your writing.
For example, I’m going to share with you part of a blog post I wrote after my first rejection:
If you follow me on facebook, then you know that today I got my first response back from a publisher: pass.
You would probably consider that to be a big disappointment to me, and it probably would have been, had I not prepared myself for what an arduous journey this could possibly be. Also, the editor’s friendliness and words of encouragement really helped to soften the blow.
So here’s how I’m going to break it down:
- Today was really not a good day for finding out this kind of news, and I did have a brief moment of wanting to curl up in a ball and cry. Had it not come on such a day, I doubt I would have had any kind of negative reaction.
- This response came from the only publisher that I had received an actual confirmation from a human being that they were reading my manuscript, which means I’m much more in the dark now than I was before.
- The simple fact of having my ‘baby’, my brainchild, be rejected.
- Words from the editor [names were removed]: “Thank you for submitting your manuscript to [Publisher]. [Head Editor] thought this premise was highly intriguing and very fresh. It has a great setting and a fascinating cast of characters.”
- The reason they decided to pass was highly subjective and another publisher/editor may not have the same concerns.
- The fact that they took the time to respond and give me feedback is a compliment in and of itself. That doesn’t always happen.
- For a first submission from an unpublished and unrepresented writer, even getting a rejection with such positive feedback is more encouraging than disparaging.
- If it turns out I don’t get any takers, the feedback lets me know that I do have something worth trying to self-publish
All in all, I would consider this more success than failure. I was more freaked out by the fact that someone actually read my book, rather than the rejection itself.
That’s the best way to avoid the rejection blues. View any kind of feedback as a gift, because most of the time, you’re going to get a form letter. I appreciate every personal response I’ve ever gotten from an agent, editor, or publisher because it helped me get to where I am now.